Communicating with a loved one who has dementia may feel intimidating. One key to successful and loving communication is education. It is a common concern for those who have a cherished person with dementia and might be at a loss on how to communicate. How a person interacts and understands someone who has dementia is vital. Recognizing different ways you can connect and communicate can be immensely helpful.

How to communicate with someone with dementia.

While some of these methods will vary depending on the individual, these are some common ways to help guide you in your efforts.

• Respect. Respecting those with Alzheimer’s or dementia is essential. They want and deserve respect, so be thoughtful of how you speak and try to avoid phrases that could be patronizing, demeaning and/or condescending.


• Speak clearly and calmly. Remember to refer to people by their names and refrain from using pronouns such as he, she or they.


• Use touch if they will allow it. A reassuring hug or hand on someone’s shoulder can show affection without using words. Those with dementia may miss the physical attention and can really benefit from feeling loved via touching.


• Keep conversations simple. Try to talk about one thing at a time. If the conversation has multiple subjects, it can be confusing. Also, try to ask more simple questions that have the opportunity for one or two answers. This can make the conversation feel less frustrating.


• Listen. Be sure to spend time listening and not monopolize the conversation. If you do not understand something, it is okay to ask them to repeat it or say, “I am sorry, I do not understand."


• Talk about something they are interested in or about their past. Someone with dementia may be able to remember his or her childhood but have a hard time remembering something that happened earlier that day.


• Have patience. Give them some time to explain and talk. Try not to interrupt and if you ask a question, just pause and give them time to respond.

Talking with someone with dementia can have the opportunity to create precious memories that you will be able to cherish. It is possible that they will also remember the time you spend together. Even if that is not the case, take the time to talk with them. It can mean more to them than you will ever know,